Monday, May 5, 2014
Guilt trips suck
Why do I let people lay guilt trips on me? I allow it all the time and then after the fact I sit and stew about it for hours and even days. I hate confrontation so much that when someone does this to me I say nothing and just sit there shaking my head and agreeing with them. UGH! It's so darn frustrating.I don't like that I allow someone to make me feel guilty for something that is clearly their issue and they complain about everyone treating them a certain way when maybe they should take a look at themselves and see that we aren't the bad people but they are the reason people want to avoid them. I was told by a Psychiatrist once that when "other people have the flu don't suffer with their diarrhea." I know it sounds very simple but it's hard to apply it to myself. I revert back to my child self when people start doing guilt trips and I feel ashamed and don't know what to do. I try to defend myself but they start piling it on even harder and I end up feeling worse. I just don't know what to do anymore.