Monday, February 18, 2013

Trusting Supportive People

It is wise to trust "supportive people."


•keep us from feeling alone

•give strength

•supply us with kind listening

•offer approval

•want what is "best for us"

•keep us from falling or sinking

•are honest

•help us to keep our heads up

•speak in favor us

What would a supportive person say to you? ____________________

What would a supportive person do for you? ____________________

What would a supportive person do with you?____________________

Knowing what information to share and when to share is a healthy boundary, and will assist in developing supportive relationships.

What does "private" mean to you? ____________________

Why do people need to keep some thoughts to themselves sometimes? _____________________

What happens to you if you tell everyone everything all the time? ____________________

How does that affect the way people treat you? ____________________

What type of information do you feel comfortable sharing? ____________________

Who are you most comfortable sharing private information with? ____________________

1. Here's a list of "difficult situations." Pick one that you may have been up against recently or might be up against in the future:

•financial problems

•Significant other/marital concerns

•unwanted pregnancy

•religious/spiritual concerns

•family problems

•feelings of fear

•flooding of memories

2. Now draw a box, then another box inside of that one and finally a rectangle in the inner box. Write the name of the person, in the center rectangle, with whom you'd share this information.

3. Write on the inside of the square what you would feel comfortable sharing.

4. Write on the outside of the square the type of information you'd feel uncomfortable sharing.

This is a wonderful exercise on learning boundaries in relationships and finding out if you have "true" supportive relationships. Knowing our supporters and non-supporters can help us in getting the correct help we need and from whom it is best to give it!

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