It is wise to trust "supportive people."
•keep us from feeling alone
•supply us with kind listening
•want what is "best for us"
•keep us from falling or sinking
•help us to keep our heads up
•speak in favor us
What would a supportive person say to you? ____________________
What would a supportive person do for you? ____________________
What would a supportive person do with you?____________________
Knowing what information to share and when to share is a healthy boundary, and will assist in developing supportive relationships.
What does "private" mean to you? ____________________
Why do people need to keep some thoughts to themselves sometimes? _____________________
What happens to you if you tell everyone everything all the time? ____________________
How does that affect the way people treat you? ____________________
What type of information do you feel comfortable sharing? ____________________
Who are you most comfortable sharing private information with? ____________________
1. Here's a list of "difficult situations." Pick one that you may have been up against recently or might be up against in the future:
•Significant other/marital concerns
•feelings of fear
•flooding of memories
2. Now draw a box, then another box inside of that one and finally a rectangle in the inner box. Write the name of the person, in the center rectangle, with whom you'd share this information.
3. Write on the inside of the square what you would feel comfortable sharing.
4. Write on the outside of the square the type of information you'd feel uncomfortable sharing.
This is a wonderful exercise on learning boundaries in relationships and finding out if you have "true" supportive relationships. Knowing our supporters and non-supporters can help us in getting the correct help we need and from whom it is best to give it!