My 17 year old daughter asked me why I don't just choose integration instead of having all these sad and scared insiders. I explained to her that they are all healing and doing better every day and how I would miss them if they were to become 1. She said she thought it was kind of selfish that I didn't do it because I'm allowing them to suffer so I won't feel bad.
Do you think she is right? Maybe I am being selfish to do what I'm doing but I always thought that integration was kind of a slap in the face to them and they didn't want it. It really has me thinking and gives me anxiety. Our husband told us that he would miss everyone terribly if they went away. I think my daughter just may be concerned about us because she is going off to college in the fall and knows we will be alone a lot. I think she is wanting to protect us but I think if it is ever time to integrate we will know it and it will be the right time. We can’t force this on them. Or on myself. Any thoughts from anyone?