Monday, February 13, 2012

It's getting better all the time

Our Therapist moved our appointments to every 3 weeks unless there is a crisis. I feel nervous but I understand why. She is trying to wean me off of therapy all together. I don't think I will know what to do if I am no longer in therapy. Most of my life has been spent seeing a therapist. I had an acquaintance of mine who is a therapist tell me that therapy should only last 6 weeks max and that if I am still in therapy than they aren't doing something right. I disagree with him. How can you say 6 weeks is going to cure a person. People with DID are very complex and there are layers of inner scars that need to be healed. Depending on how bad your situation was growing up you can imagine how much undoing needs to be undone. I am actually feeling more healthy mentally than I ever have. I know I can't work and probably never will but I have a lot to contribute to the world and the people around me. I have the confidence to say that now whereas 2 years ago I wouldn't have believed that. Having DID isn't a burden to me anymore. It's just part of who I am. I am NOT my diagnosis it is only a fraction of who I am.


  1. What a huge change! Congrats on working through the last 2 years. You are doing such a great job of caring for yourself and your health. Please call any time.
    Safe hugs.

  2. Thank you! I will call you soon <3

    1. I need some positive support...
      Here is something that I wrote...
      “I Don’t Know What to Say”,
      by Karen Haynes Gutherless (c) 2012

      The people closest to a traumatized individual—partners, family members, friends—often tell us that they don’t have any idea what to do or say in response to trauma disorder symptoms. It may help readers in that difficult position to begin with a review of common well-intentioned statements that are not helpful. These are some things that we encourage you not to say:

      “That was in the past. You’re OK now.” It’s just not true. The traumatic event may be long over but the essence of a trauma disorder is that the effects of the event last far into the future. You would not tell someone with a broken leg that he is “OK now,” since the auto accident in which he was hurt happened in the past. Likewise, the damage done by exposure to psychological trauma takes a long time, and much work, to heal.

      “You’ve got to let go of the past and get on with your life.” People with trauma disorders are not holding onto the past. The past is holding on to them—often with a suffocating grip. The traumatized individual usually wants desperately to get on with her life and is working as hard as she can to do just that.

      “Try not to think about it.” Among the symptoms of trauma disorders are intense attempts to avoid any reminders of the traumatic event. While understandable, this tends to make trauma symptoms worse. It’s not thinking about the past that is the problem, it’s not being able to think about traumatic experiences in a full beginning-to-end way.

      So…..when you want to help and don’t know what to say, replace giving advice with giving support. Saying “I’m sorry you are feeling rotten. Is there anything I can do to help?” can mean a lot.

  3. Thank your for posting! That was beautifully said!